A typical texting conversation taken from my daughter's cell phone:
idk (I don't know)
lol (laugh out loud)
ikr (I know, right?)
And the one word conversations didn't end there. Eight months ago, FW (my hubby) and I made the decision to purchase cell phones for our middle-school-aged girls for the main purpose of keeping them connected to us. It is very comforting having that open communication at all times between us and our girls, especially when they are separated from us for an after school activity or simply away at a friend's house.
The texting between their friends started out slow, but in no time it seemed their little fingers were typing out text messages every couple of minutes, quicker than a cowboy could draw his gun from his holster. And before you knew it, one phone racked up 10,000 texts in a month's time! It was consuming them and was becoming an addiction. The constant clicking of the nails against the tiny keyboard and the panic attacks that occurred when their phone was misplaced shed a new light on whether these cell phones were a useful tool or a hindrance to their social and communication skills.
Of course we have our "house rules" regarding the cell phones and texting etiquette. But, allow me to be the first to tell you that one cannot control what garbage is coming into the phone. Occasionally, FW and I would "spot check" their phones and review the text messages. During one of our spot checks, we dishearteningly learned that some of the incoming text messages (mostly from the opposite sex) were distasteful and inappropriate. The offensive language, sexual references and provocative photos would make any parent leery of allowing such texting to take place.
It didn't take us long to realize that these cell phones had become a subject of distress between FW and I. So as of now, we have suspended the texting privileges on our daughter's phones. They do still have a cell phone and they are able to verbally call someone to stay in touch, or if they want to make conversation, or if there is an emergency, but we feel they are simply not mature enough to handle the texting part. FW and I learned this the hard way and that was our mistake.